Homeschool News & Views
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ssue 39, Sept 20, 2007
from Homeschool Helpers



This is Dan White with Homeschool Helpers.  

Homeschooling is challenging.  It is the narrow way.

Christ said in Mat 7:13, World English Bible,
(13)  "Enter in by the narrow gate; for wide is the gate and broad is the way that leads to destruction, and many are those who enter in by it.

An article in the Marion, Indiana Chronicle Tribune said that the number of registered homeschoolers in Indiana increased from 4400 to 23400 in 13 years.  That is about 2% of the public school number.  Not all homeschoolers register, so maybe homeschoolers in Indiana are 2 to 4% of the total students there, and perhaps that is typical of the nation.  Although the number of homeschoolers keeps growing, that is still quite a small percentage.  Perhaps about one in thirty students are homeschoolers.  Homeschooling is the narrow way.

In Germany, homeschooling is really the narrow way.  Another family there is being harassed by the German government for the crime of homeschooling.

From the hslda.org web site; "The Dudeks, a homeschooling family of eight, were tried, convicted and fined 900 euros (about $1,200) in May for not sending their children to school.

Following the trial, state prosecutor Herwig Mueller told Mr. Dudek that he needn’t worry about the fine. “You won’t have to pay it,” said Mr. Mueller, “because I am going to send you and your wife to jail.”

He must have been trained by the US National Education Association.

"Additionally, the local Youth Welfare Office in Hesse filed a case against the family in the local Family Court. But at a July 3 hearing, a judge ruled the Dudeks could keep custody of their six children.

German courts approve this persecution because, say judges, homeschooling might lead to so-called “parallel societies.””

Of course, the German authorities are trying to use their state education system to create citizens who will do whatever the government wants.  They don't want citizens who think for themselves.  They want citizens who think what the government wants them to think.  The US public schools do the same thing.  And in Venezuela, socialist dictator Chavez is doing the same thing.  But he is very open about it.

From Yahoo news on September 17:

"President Hugo Chavez threatened on Monday to take over any private schools refusing to submit to the oversight of his socialist government, a move some Venezuelans fear will impose leftist ideology in the classroom...

All Venezuelan schools, both public and private, must submit to state inspectors enforcing the new educational system. Those that refuse will be closed and nationalized, Chavez said...

A new curriculum will be phased in during this school year, and new textbooks are being developed to help educate "the new citizen," added Chavez's brother and education minister Adan Chavez...

"We must train socially minded people to help the community, and that's why the revolution's socialist program is being implemented," said one official."

In view of those situations, Christian homeschoolers in America have it great.  Our problems are small by comparison.

However, homeschooling is still the narrow way.   One problem that homeschool parents have is providing social activities for their students.

Compared to the total population, there aren’t that many homeschool students around to have activities with.  Public school students and their families usually live in routine panic mode, so they don’t have a lot of time for activities other than public school stuff.  Besides that, you as a Christian parent probably don’t want your homeschooled student to pick up the public school culture.

Therefore, a homeschool parent has to actively work to create social activities for their students.  In fact, a major part of a home educator’s job is arranging social activities.  You are the school administrators.  Just as a public school administrator has to oversee field trips, band practices and sporting events, you have to do the same thing.

Almost all homeschool parents were public school students themselves, and they can reflect back on the friends they had in school.  We all had a couple of very close friends that we went through school with.  Homeschool parents want to make sure that their students have close friends, too.

Let me tell you about a problem that we have run into.

Our last two homeschoolers graduated two and four years ago.  Last week they went to a graduation service for a homeschool friend.  Shortly before that they went to a wedding for two homeschool friends.  They just got an invitation in the mail for a baby shower for a homeschool friend.  And so on and so forth.

One of their homeschool friends, told them at the wedding, “You know, we have so many friends, with all the graduations,
weddings and baby showers – this could get expensive!”

The reason these homeschool grads have so many close friends is because a lot of parents worked to make it that way.

A major part of the job of being a homeschool parent is the job of social director, activities coordinator, event executive.  I think that homeschool parents usually don’t realize the importance of that in their overall homeschool education.  Parents usually think of education only in the academic sense, the subjects which are studied out of a book.  But if you reflect back on your own education, you don’t warmly recall the first time you opened your biology textbook.  No, you recall the things you did and the people you were with.  That is a very important part of any education.

In fact, I think being the social director is the most demanding part of being a homeschool parent.  The book learning usually comes pretty easily.  If you work at it consistently and the children are disciplined enough to pay attention, the academic results are good.  That’s relatively easy, as has been demonstrated by homeschool families over and over.  You just sit down and do it.

With the job of social director, however, you don’t just sit down and do it.  You have to get up and do something.  You have to reach out to others and often create something from nothing.  That’s much more challenging than sitting down and going over a book.

Often homeschool parents are very concerned about their children’s studies.  They are focused on the kids learning this well and that well, overlooking the simple fact that most of the stuff they memorize out of those books will be forgotten in a year or two.  Parents must remember that they have a totally different perspective than their kids do.  The parent teacher is interested in the books and getting through the courses.  The kids are also interested in having fun.  Having fun and being with friends is an important part of an overall education.

The parent teachers’ main emphasis is on the home.  That is the site of their marriage, their family, and their homeschool. That is what you are doing with your life. Your young ones, however, naturally have other interests outside your home. The older they get, the more this is true.

Keep in mind your child's perspective.  I have seen homeschool mothers go to the work and trouble of planning an activity for their young students to get together.  Then that activity seemed to be more what the mothers were interested in than what the students were interested in. The students were excited to be getting together and were all pent up with energy, bursting to do something.  Meanwhile, the mothers had the children sit and listen to lectures from the mothers, going over things that the mothers thought were important in the schooling.  The kids just wanted a chance to be kids with other kids, but they had to spend almost all their time at the activity just listening to more mothers.  Different perspective there.

The parent teachers must work just as hard at the job of social director as they do at academics.  Just as you plan out a course of study, with curriculum and books and lesson plans, so you must also plan out a course of social activities, with dates and people and events.

It is much harder to plan a course of social events than it is to buy books and lay out a lesson plan.  Since it is harder, you  as a parent may just want to take the easy way out, and focus most on the books.   You may not want to get out of your comfort level and force yourself to get involved in being a social activities director.

Public school students say that being with their friends are what they enjoy most about school.  That would probably be the one thing that would make your kids want to go to public school.  Home educators need to give their homeschool students that same experience, although in a much better way.  You see, when kids have friends at public school, they also have enemies.  They have fights and bullies, gangs and drugs.  Teen suicides are a major problem in America, and a major factor in those suicides is school pressures.  There is enormous pressure to conform, and great social pain for those who don’t.

I quote from a story on Yahoo News on September 18.

Atlanta residents squared off Tuesday at a public hearing on a proposed city-wide ban on low-slung pants -- or any clothing that exposes underwear in public.
 
Middle-aged and elderly residents in this southern US city booed and hissed James Fancy, 19, as he pulled his shorts down at the city council meeting to expose striped boxers, and Tabby Chase, 30, as she stood up to reveal a bra under a fishnet-shirt.

Both underwear flashers held up a sign saying "Clothes are not a crime."

"Disgusting," said a man in the back of the room.”

I am sure you have noticed this fashion trend – guys wearing baggy pants and no belt, and the pants hang halfway down their hips to show their boxer shorts.

Let me be diplomatic and say that is an absolutely idiotic trend, just like young people having holes in their jeans, except dumber.

The question is – how do stupid, vulgar trends like this get passed around?

Through the public schools, of course.

Do the teachers in the public schools teach the boys to show their underwear?

No.  The unguided culture teaches them that.  Their friends teach them that.

So now we have so many guys going around with their underwear uncovered that cities are beginning to pass ordinances against such dress.

Quoting again from the Yahoo news article:
“[The] injunction is aimed at young people in Atlanta who wear their shorts low enough to expose their underwear,  typically boxer shorts -- considered a fashion trend.

The ordinance, which would fine violators, would also prohibit women from exposing the top strap of their thong underwear.

Martin said baggy shorts are part of an epidemic of bad behavior by youths in Atlanta who are trying to be hip.”

Trying to be hip.  Or blindly following what they learn in the halls of the public schools.  But what they learn certainly doesn’t stop with boxer shorts and thong underwear.  They learn drugs, sex, obscenities and most of all, they learn to follow the world instead of Christ.

All of that is part of having friends in the public schools.  The public schools are unguided.  Nobody can make the boys want to pull their pants up, as long as the peer pressure pulls the pants down.  As social director of your home school, you can guide your children’s friendships.  You can keep the positive parts of friendship and eliminate most of the negative.

I mentioned about some of the homeschoolers and grads in our area having a lot of good, close friends.  They grew to be friends because they spent a lot of time together, first in homeschool activities, and later just being together.  I think there are so many home school activities locally that a family would not have time to participate in them all.

Our daughters played on basketball teams and volleyball teams.  They were in a number of drama productions, performed in the city civic center theater.  They participated in the homeschool coop classes.  And for years they have gotten together with the homeschoolers and grads every Monday evening to play sports and music.  Looking back on all that, those are absolutely some of our greatest life memories.  The job of being school social director is not without its rewards.

Sometimes a homeschool parent will say -- I’m afraid that my children don’t have enough friends.  If you feel that is true, then you have to ask yourself why that is so.  That would be the case only if you as the social director have not worked hard enough to provide social activities.  And you probably haven’t worked hard enough at being social director because you didn’t think that was an important part of your job as educator.  It is.