Homeschool News & Views
Issue 38, September
14, 2007
From Homeschool Helpers
In association with Pass It On Ministries
Greetings. This is Dan
White with Homeschool News & Views.
Have you noticed that one
of the basic principles of modern liberalism is to get mothers not to be?
First of
all, they convince women not to
have children at all.
Second, if women do get
pregnant, they convince them to abort their babies.
Third, if they do go ahead
and have a child, they convince women not to spend time raising that child.
Following the liberal anti-mothering
program has its costs.
When women don’t have children at all, they miss giving and getting
that love between a mother and child.
The purpose of humans is to love God and to love others. There is no higher human love than that of a
mother for a child.
When women abort their
babies, it has lifelong effects on them mentally and physically. They have committed murder.
And when women don’t put a prime emphasis on being a
good wife and mother, that, too, has a destructive effect.
About a year ago Forbes magazine published an article which set off a
firestorm of attacks against it. The
article was titled Don’t Marry Career Women.
Here’s how the article began.
“Guys: a word of advice. Marry pretty women or ugly ones. Short ones or tall ones.
Blondes or brunettes. Just,
whatever you do, don't marry a woman with a
career. Why? Because if many social scientists are to be believed,
you run a higher risk of having a rocky marriage. While
everyone knows that marriage can be stressful, recent studies have found
professional women are more likely to get divorced, more likely to cheat and
less likely to have children. And if
they do have kids, they are more likely to be unhappy about it.”
Those are strong
points. The author Michael Noer said that studies have found that professional women
are more likely to get divorced, more likely to cheat on their husbands and
less likely to have children. And if they do have children, they are more likely to be
unhappy about having children.
Now note that Noer did not say that was his opinion of career women. He only said that studies by social
scientists had found that career women typically were
like that.
Noer goes on: “…your
typical career girl is well educated, ambitious, informed and engaged. All seemingly good things, right? Sure … at least until you get married. Then, to put it bluntly, the more successful
she is, the more likely she is to grow dissatisfied with you [her husband].”
I remember that this article made national news,
because the liberal women were livid.
They created such a liberal media outcry that Forbes magazine had to
backtrack on the article. In the
protests, the protesters weren’t so much disagreeing
with what the studies had shown. They
were only protesting that someone had dared to point out that career women make good executives and bad wives.
Those are very serious
points that the studies pointed up.
1. Career women are more likely to get divorced.
Divorce is awful. We have been around several, and they are
anything but fun. Psychologists say that
a divorce is next to a death in trauma.
Sometimes divorce is so painful that I think it
actually leads to death. I have personally known three women who were wronged by
their husbands. The article we are
discussing here is about career women being bad wives, and I’m not exactly sure
what leads to being bad husbands, but I had three acquaintances whose husbands did
them dirty and divorced them. Within a
few years, all three of those women had died from cancer. They were not old, just heartbroken.
Divorce is awful, the next
thing to dying. If you are a guy and you marry a career women, your chance of having her
dump you is pretty high.
2. Career women are more likely to cheat on
their husbands.
Most divorces are caused by adultery.
God was so displeased with David when he stole Bathsheba that He put a
lifetime plague on David: the sword
would never depart from his house.
Later, when David’s son Absalom tried to take the throne of
There is an order in the
Ten Commandments, from more serious to less serious. John said that sin is the transgression of
the law, so sin is sin, and there is no such thing as a little sin. But you can easily
see the order in the last six commandments:
6. don’t kill, the worst thing you can do to
someone.
7. don’t commit adultery, or steal someone’s
mate, the next most serious hurt you can do to someone.
8. don’t steal, the next most hurtful thing, to
take his stuff.
9. don’t bear false witness, or lie to or
deceive someone.
10. don’t covet, which is last, to want to take
something from someone.
In the Ten Commandments,
adultery is next to killing.
Career
women are more likely to be
adulterers, and that is a very serious thing.
That’s the next thing to saying that career
women more likely to be murderers, which is probably also true.
3. Career women are less likely to have
children, and if they do have them, they’re sorry they
did.
We have mentioned how
today a lot of liberals don’t want to have kids and
don’t really like kids. So if you are a left wing guy, a career women may be your
wife of choice. You can avoid having
kids together.
On the other hand, if you
are a man who wants children and a family, and you want those children to be
loved and not unloaded on someone else, a career woman
may not be the wife you are looking for.
Again, this article caused
so much outrage among the career women that Forbes had
to apologize for even bringing the subject up.
Forbes did not say that their information was wrong. They just said they were sorry they mentioned
it.
Now those results from
women choosing to have careers other than their families are not surprising. It’s just common
sense. God told Eve, your desire shall be to your husband.
When a wife gets pointed in another direction,
trouble results. Christ said that a man cannot serve two masters.
Neither can a woman.
Not all career
women divorce, commit adultery and despise kids, but they are more
likely to be like that than non-career women, and all career women are
different than they would be otherwise. It must be noted that when career
women put up such a loud protest when the results of their lives are
made known, they are obviously being very defensive about their life choice.
One of the basic
principles of liberalism is to get mothers not to be. In spite of the liberals’ protests, a lot of women don’t really want to be career women, and
lousy wives and mothers.
CBS News had a report in
May that said that fewer women are returning to their career jobs after
becoming mothers. The Bureau of Labor
Statistics reports that the number of working mothers has actually decreased over
the last decade, although they are still outnumbered
by absentee working mothers. This is an
interesting shift in the long standing trend of
mothers leaving their families to work outside the home.
I repeat – this is a
change in a long standing trend in
Redbook Magazine, in a
March, 2003 article listed four reasons that women are becoming at home mothers:
1. They don't want to have
latchkey kids like their parents did.
Of course, a lot of them
were latchkey kids themselves.
2. They want to focus on
love, marriage and family, because life is short.
This is an enormous
concept. Often people don’t
think like that until they’re too old to go back and change things.
3. They're fearful of the
world, and want to be there for their kids.
When there is no
homemaker, the home lives in routine panic, with little time left for just
caring for the kids. One lady school superintendent was so preoccupied that she
forgot to get her young daughter out of the back of their vehicle and the
little girl died there from the heat.
The daughter was dead and the mother was completely devastated. She had so much on her mind she just forgot
to get the girl out of the vehicle.
4. They want more time with their children.
Really, the only way to
get more time is be a full time mother and homemaker.
Also, in Woman’s Day
magazine in April, 2003, women answered the question, What is your dream job?
1. Best-selling novelist: 41%
2. Stay-at-Home Mom: 36%
3. TV Anchorwoman: 14%
4. President of the
That shows that a lot of women consider full time mothering very highly. It is their dream job.
Along the same line, an
article appeared on Yahoo recently by Penelope Trunk on work and life
balance. She said, “There's a new
emphasis on keeping families together over
career aspirations.”
“Generation X knows that
the belief that both parents in a family can have demanding, time-consuming
careers outside the home is an antiquated one. Time has shown that it just doesn't work.”
“Thanks to Gen X, the
power-couple-as-parents setup will likely go down in history as just another
terrible idea conceived by baby boomers. “
“At this point, it's clear that families are better
off when one person takes care of the household full time. “
“…very few families have a real financial need for two parents to be
working that much... So the couples who leave
their kids with a caretaker for 10 hours a day are making a choice, and the
strongest evidence that it isn't a great one for kids is that Gen Xers who
didn't have both parents at home hated it so much that they don't want to do it
to their own children.”
Last year there were about 42 million kids who lived with both
parents. About 25% had mothers who
stayed home. About 75% of that group had
mothers who did not. Of course, there are many kids who are not living with both parents.
According to a US Census
report in 2002, 31% of children had mothers who did not leave the home
to work that year. 69%
did not have full time mothers. So you can see that the liberals have taken over motherhood.
But now there is a countertrend for women who want more
from life than just selling widgets. For
however long it lasts, the trend has changed.
The epitome of this countertrend is the homeschooling mother. She and her husband take full responsibility
for their children. These families
contain only about 2% of the children in
I heard a minister once say that he had often talked
with many older people who deeply regretted not spending enough time with their
children. He said he had never talked
with anyone who regretted spending too much time with their
children.